Go aims to make programmers more productive. It has several advantages

8 min readDec 8, 2020

Being altruistic and help others can be difficult, unnatural for someone who never cared about anyone else but themself. To start, look around yourself; who can you help today? There is no need to do big and public actions. Starts small: donate some food to a homeless shelter, listen to a friend who needs to vent, donate worn-out blankets to an animal sanctuary or simply keep the door open for someone leaving a store with a big load of grocery.

“Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses in your life; you realize everything that happens in life is a result of the previous choice you’ve made and start making new choices to change your life.” ― Roy T. Bennett

input_train = np.array([[0, 1, 0], [0, 1, 1], [0, 0, 0],
[10, 0, 0], [10, 1, 1], [10, 0, 1]])
output_train = np.array([[0], [0], [0], [1], [1], [1]])
input_pred = np.array([1, 1, 0])

input_test = np.array([[1, 1, 1], [10, 0, 1], [0, 1, 10],
[10, 1, 10], [0, 0, 0], [0, 1, 1]])
output_test = np.array([[0], [1], [0], [1], [0], [0]])

Look at a situation like an outsider would do. What happened? What went wrong, and how can it be fixed? Admitting to being wrong or have done something incorrectly won’t make you look weak or stupid; on the contrary, taking responsibility for your actions will make you appear aware of your limit and prone to learn how to do better in the future.

Emotionally immature people are self-centered. They lack of empathy and care only about themselves and their needs. Sometimes they bully others only to feel powerful and pretend to be better.

Sometimes, people around us criticize our behavior in ways we might misunderstand, feel too harsh compared to our actions. When this happens, it is necessary to take a step back, analyze the complaint without the personal tone. Maybe that person was right but expressed himself the wrong way. Perhaps it’s nothing personal, but the objection pointed out a real problem that needs attention.
When we are kids, we mostly receive everything we ask because our parents are ready to take care of our needs. Growing up, we start to explore the world and understand that other people have needs too. We develop feelings like altruism and empathy. Or at least we all should.
The same thing can be said about relationships. If you truly love someone, you should put aside some of your needs. They might seem like life or death matters to you, but sometimes they are just silly things of no value that you can let go to be with your partner for the rest of your life.

Stefano never tried to find a compromise or sacrifice a moment of his time to spend with my friend Clara. She was always the one postponing her appointments to fit his schedule. After almost nine months of dating, Clara has never met one of his other friends or vice versa. I even started to think she made him up.

Sometimes it is hard to open up with others, especially if negative past experiences hold you back. If you can’t face your emotions even with someone close to you, maybe it’s time to seek therapist advice. Find a person you can build a trusted relationship with and let your feelings out at your own pace. We are all human beings with emotions, and they are not always easy to cope with.

Many machine learning models are not able to understand the difference between e.g. units, and will naturally apply more weight to features of high magnitudes. This can destroy an algorithm’s ability to predict new data points well. Further, training machine learning models with features of high magnitude will be slower than necessary, at least if gradient descent is used. This is because gradient descent converges faster when the input values are in approximately the same range.

Long-term goals require action plans. The best practice is to write down all the steps necessary to reach the aim, sacrifices included. Is there a way to work around those losses? If not, it’s time to face them and be prepared because, at this point, there is no easy road to succeed in the plan. If you truly want something more significant, you must be ready to find a compromise. Often, the fear of commitment has deep and solid roots that must be identified and confronted to overcome the anxiety to move on to better long-term experiences.

Emotionally immature people struggle not to satisfy an immediate desire. They don’t sacrifice anything temporary for reaching long-term worthwhile goals. They live for the moment and might even have a hard time planning for the future.

They also don’t like to commit to a relationship as they see it as a limitation of their freedom. They will do everything possible to postpone important relationship matters like holidays, parents’ meetings, or moving together.

Immature people always feel under attack when you point out something they did not or did wrong. They deny it using projection to attribute the unbearable feelings or desires to someone else. Every comment on their actions feels like a terrible offense.

In this simple neural network, we will classify 1x3 vectors with 10 as the first element. Input and output training and test sets are created using NumPy’s array function, and input_pred is created to test a prediction function that will be defined later. Both the training and the test data are comprised of six samples with three features each, and since the output is given, we understand that this is an example of supervised learning.

Before starting any defense mechanism, ask yourself if you can do better next time, avoid the wrongful attitude, and make a better decision for everyone’s good (not only yours). According to the article published in Psychology Today, defense mechanisms are “unconscious strategies whereby people protect themselves from anxious thoughts or feelings.”

According to Guy Winch Ph.D. article on Psychology Today, “Some people have such a fragile ego, such brittle self-esteem, such a weak “psychological constitution,” that admitting they made a mistake or that they were wrong is fundamentally too threatening for their egos to tolerate.”

Ask others to meet you halfway. Sometimes the best solution to a problem is in the moderate answer. There is no big prize for trying to be always right even when you are not. Question yourself and see if there is a better option than the one you came up with; ask for a second opinion about a specific matter and genuinely care about the response. Let other people’s ideas and goals be ahead of yours every once in a while and help your beloved with their needs too.

Emotionally immature people don’t own their mistakes. When they mess up, they don’t take responsibility for their actions and try to make up for them. On the contrary, they blame other people or situations beyond their control. They like to complain about other’s mistakes. You will never hear an immature person saying it was his fault and that he will do something to fix the error or never do it again.

Don’t complain about others’ mistakes but roll up your sleeves and help solve the problem by being kind to those who did wrong. Seek advice from people you respect and trust to guide you.

Emotionally immature people don’t feel comfortable talking about their feelings. For them, elaborating emotions is an overwhelming process that makes them feel ashamed. As a consequence of being so “private,” they don’t connect with others on a deeper level of intimacy. When someone tries to get closer, they retreat into themselves.

Go aims to make programmers more productive. It has several advantages

Written by Nadim Mahmud